The Lonley Mum…a depressing title but sometimes SO true! If you’re new to an area, moved to Adelaide from interstate or overseas, have no friends that have children or just out of sync with friends that do – coffee dates with just the company of your newborn can be mind numbing and just bloody lonely.
I was so lucky with my first baby that a couple of my friends also had babies around the same time. Every Monday we went for a huge pram walk and then had brunch at a café and chatted till were given dirty looks to order more coffee or lunch or leave. It was, and still is, one of the best memories I have of maternity leave. It saved my sanity every Monday to be able to talk about all the things going on, ask a million questions, answer a million more and just hang out with other people who were also sleep deprived, sore, tired, emotional and feeling clueless and sometimes even useless.
Second time around I found myself in a new state and without my Mums! I caught myself creepily eyeing out other Mother’s Groups on the beach. I wanted to pull up a rug, give an intro, shout them all a coffee and sit with them and talk all things sleep routines, feeding schedules, being tired, ways my husband is annoying me, how long it’s been since my hair hasn’t been in a Mum Bun and really just make some cool new mum friends who are going through what I’m going through. I needed to debrief, to download, to discuss. I realised I was a bit lonely – and I also realised I can’t be the only one?!
If you’re still reading this, and nodding as you read, we’ve put together some ideas on how you, yes YOU can get out there and meet some Mums!
#1 Find a Mother’s Group right here!
If you’re reading this and you’re already part of a fab Mother’s Group and you’d like to share it, please put some info in the comments below. If you have regular meet up day/time/location let us know about it. It might just be the thing that turns one lonely Mum into one happy Mum!
#2 Need a village? Get down to The Baby Cino Club!
This is a brilliant idea that we love! The Baby Cino Club are a social group for Adelaide mums and dads. They run super cruisy social catch ups weekly and events for TBCC members. Their mission is to support, motivate, inspire and bring together families, to build a village like environment.
Click here to check them out on Facebook.
#3 Bring your Baby Movies at Event Cinema
Event Cinema at Marion run “Bring your Baby” movie sessions 3 times a week at baby friendly times. Days and session times can vary but they’re normally Friday’s 10:30am | Monday’s 10:30am | Wednesday’s 12:30pm. Sit next to some other Mums and say hello! There are Mother’s groups out there who make this a regular thing and I’m sure they’d love to have you! And if you’re a Mum at the movies, and you see someone on their own, please say hello and ask if they’d like to sit with you.
#4 Bootcamp/Mums and Bubs Fitness Classes
If you’re an active Mum, or wanting to be a more active Mum there are lots of baby friendly fitness classes in all areas of Adelaide. Both indoor and outdoor classes for all sorts of fitness levels. And if you get enough burpees from your baby to not want to do them yourself, just find a walking group. Nothing beats a good pram stroll and a chat in the fresh air.
We love Nourish and Flourish who are a community of mums who support each other in getting fitter and stronger, for ourselves and our families. They run a variety of classes 6 days a week at Wynn Vale and Valley View AND they have an on site creche!
If you need help finding one in your area leave a comment below and we’ll try and help you.
#5 Baby Sensory Classes
The Baby Sensory programme is specifically designed for babies aged from birth to 13 months. With an incredible variety of sounds, smells, sights, textures, music, dance, signing and massage, every activity is carefully crafted to stimulate your baby’s senses and move learning and development forwards. Plus, you’ll never experience the same class twice! There are 17 locations around Adelaide that you can find here
#6 Visit your local library
Lots of libraries around Adelaide have FREE “rhyme time” or “babytime” sessions where Mums and Bubs can have a sing, a dance, and meet some other Mums. This is the kind of thing you can expect at Unley Library. Pop into your local and pick up the timetable.
If you’re a single Mum, first of all YOU ARE AMAZING! And if you don’t already know about it, singlemum.com.au is a fantastic online resource full of information, help, advice and other Mums just like you. There is an Adelaide Single Parents Facebook community you can join.
Don’t forget – we’d love to know about your Adelaide Mother’s Group. Please leave a comment below with the details of your group, or the area you’re looking for a Mother’s Group and we’ll do our best to match you up!